How to understand the other, how to understand yourself. The art of seeing people through.

How to understand the other, how to understand yourself

All people are different, but for some people communication is of paramount importance because of its extraversion or the nature of its character, work habits, lifestyle. In case it is important for you to understand the other, which equally means to understand yourself, to develop and improve your ability to “see through people”, you will be interested to learn about the secrets of “understanding” people. People who understand others well, understand themselves first of all, trust their instincts and have a lot in common. Here are some character traits, behavioral features, communication techniques of experts in this field, the knowledge of which will be useful. And in the power of any person to develop these qualities in themselves. But first, a little self-analysis, which will complement the picture of our strengths and weaknesses in understanding other people and ourselves, of course. Answer the following ten questions in the most sincere way possible: 1. How do you feel about your past? 2. Do you listen attentively to what you are told? 3. Do you pay attention to details or do you try to form a general idea about someone or something? 4. How do you express your feelings, openly or discreetly? 5. How do you behave in an unfamiliar situation? 6. Are you afraid of difficulties and how do you deal with them? 7. Do you know what can make you happy in everyday life? 8. What’s your memory? 9. How often do you make the right decisions at work? 10. How do you make decisions – do you trust your advice or do you listen to yourself? What answers say about your perspicacity, your ability to understand yourself and others: 1. People understand others when they perceive their past as a necessary experience. They tend to use different ways and techniques to achieve their goals. And they look at failure as the inventor of Edison’s bulb: “I found a thousand ways to make a bulb. And I didn’t make a thousand mistakes, even if it’s different every time. Ideally, all you have to do is not make the same mistake. People who can understand the other, remember very well how they felt when they had serious problems. They are very sensitive to trouble, so they do everything they can to make sure that it never happens again. 2. They pay the utmost attention to everything that people say, how they say it and how they look. It makes it much easier for them to remember exactly what others are saying. 3. 3. They constantly monitor a person’s reactions – their movements, gesticulation and facial expressions – and therefore know how they act on others and how others act on them. 4. They are not afraid to express openly all their emotions – from anger and fear to love – because they always know how they feel in any given situation. 5. They are so receptive to everything that happens around them that they easily avoid the threat of becoming a victim in potentially life-threatening situations. 6. They have confidence in themselves. They know that they will not only survive but also win because they know how to surround themselves with reliable people. 7. By paying great attention to even the smallest details, they simultaneously see the bigger picture and are able to enjoy the small joys of life. 8. They have a good memory, which they develop by closely following what is happening around them and studying the people they have to deal with. 9. In their business, they are more likely to make good decisions than bad ones. If they take risks, they carefully weigh the pros and cons, because they know the many nuances and possible approaches to solving the problems they face. 10. 10. They trust their intuition and their personal experience and do not succumb to the influence of others. Because of their broad outlook, they rarely choose to be friends and comrades with people who can only cause them grief and trouble.

By doing so, you will find that you have become immeasurably better at understanding what others really meant and what they really are. And the more active you will put your knowledge into practice, the sooner you will learn to distinguish decent people from those who are able to cause more trouble and problems. Before you start a business or personal relationship, you should stop, pause – a minute, two, look at the expression and gesticulation of another person, listen to what he says and how he says, and most importantly, to understand what he impresses us. For example, you realize that you shouldn’t have anything to do with a person, because he is completely contraindicated to you, but still go for it. In this case you just need to remember that the relationship with such people will not only cause you anxiety, but also undermine your health. Once you understand that because of someone your life can literally be in danger, it will be much easier for you to say “no” to such a person, because health and well-being, of course, above all. Taking it as a rule to stop, look around and listen every time you meet a new person, you will develop an amazing insight into other people. And when you have to make a fundamental decision about a person, you will make the right and accurate choice. To “see through” a person, you need to decode correctly and in a timely manner all the information that he informs with all his behavior, not only with the meaning of the words he said. Deciphering another person’s behavior is easy to do by relying on four sources of information: Deciphering the speech code. A person’s voice gives only part of the keys to his or her inner world; just as important is what words he or she uses and what he or she actually means. What do people really mean by what they say? How sincere are they? Don’t they release questionable compliments, aren’t their courtesies, in fact, disguised bumps? Do they not spread gossip about you? Don’t they have a habit of always talking only about themselves? What is their vocabulary and do they follow the rules of grammar? What do they really talk about when they listen to what is “between the lines”? By listening to the voice code. A voice can say a lot about your condition. It’s especially evident when you talk on the phone. In a moment, you determine the mood of the person on the other end of the wire. The voice code is defined by the tone of the voice. Many elements of this code are familiar to you, but you may not have paid enough attention to them. These include the range of the speaker’s voice (high or low), its distinguishing features (the person mumbles, talks more and more quietly, voice complaint, sharp, serious, hoarse, melodic, low, sound, dull, lifeless, enthusiastic, excited, aggressive, sweet or monotonous), as well as the volume of the voice and the pace of speech, which primarily depend on the technique of speech of a person. Looking at the code of the body language. The body language code is a kind of pebble from a person, which shows how he walks, sits and stands. The way a person holds his or her head is no less important when analyzing the body language code than the movements he or she makes with his or her hands and feet. Observe, for example, how much space a person occupies when sitting, or how far away he usually tries to stay. Reading the facial expression code. Each person’s face expresses something, and it is the face that we understand what is on his or her soul. The facial expression code shows how someone’s face changes when they listen to others or speak for themselves. At the same time, the expression of the eyes has as much meaning as the facial expressions. How does a person listen to you: with his mouth open or with clenched teeth? Maybe he frowns, looks away, takes his eyes off? If you look closely at the expression of the person you are talking to, you can assess what he actually said in a completely new way. Every detail of a person’s facial expression can tell a lot of interesting things about him. How a person who is able to understand others and understands himself or herself behaves is applicable to the above four codes, i.e. the person with whom one wants to deal, to make friendships, close acquaintances, to make a part of one’s life, and from whom, to all other things, there is something to learn. I will immediately agree that this description is averaged, does not mean that it must be copied and give up its individual characteristics. It is most correct to keep your identity, but what you like and suit you, you can take in your piggy bank useful habits.

Speech code. Understanding, or as they are called reliable, people willingly come into a conversation and talk politely and kindly. They tend to think before they say anything, keep their word and know what they are talking about and doing. They do not stingy on compliments and say them from the heart. Understanding people are not inclined to talk about the bad and find the good side in any situation. At the same time, they are sincere and honest, wherever possible. Reliable people are responsible for their actions and speak and act accordingly. They accept people for who they are and do not want to judge anyone. Understanding people are willing to share information with others and always make sure that the conversation is useful to all participants.

How to understand the other, how to understand yourself

Their manner of speaking speaks for modesty, simplicity and lack of ego. They have a good sense of humor, but do not ridicule others or try to say anything that might humiliate another person. They speak the essence of the conversation, directly and understandably, trying to avoid ambiguities. They are excellent listeners, helping the interlocutor to prove himself at his best. Understanding people value communication and sincerely show people their affection. Voice code. The manner of speaking of understanding people allows them to express a variety of feelings. When they discuss something, their tone expresses the emotions that are relevant to the occasion. If they are upset, happy, scared or concerned, it is immediately reflected in their voice. The tempera and volume of their voice change depending on the topic under discussion. Reliable people speak clear and understandable words, their voice is expressive. They hear cheerfulness and optimism, and in the manner of speech you can feel the power that makes the interlocutors listen carefully. Body language code. Reliable people move freely and hold on so that people see their willingness to communicate and do not feel uncomfortable. When talking, they often lean towards the person they are talking to and are not afraid to touch them. They like to nod to cheer people up and show them their interest. Reliable people always take a comfortable posture, but maintain a good posture, hold their head high, stretch their shoulders and do not hunch. With the movements of their hands they are able to show their interest or emphasize a particular thought. Gesticulating, show the interlocutor their palms and keep their fingers straight, showing that they have nothing to hide. As they sit, understanding people freely spread their legs or place them one on top of the other, which also indicates that they are open. The feet pressed tightly against the ground and looked towards the person they were talking to. The code for facial expression. When speaking, understanding people gladly look a person right in the eye and do not look away. Their interlocutor feels that for them in the whole world there is no one more important than him. Usually reliable people have a calm and open expression that indicates that they are ready to communicate. They have a lively mime, a slight smile on their face, and the lower part of their face remains relaxed when they talk and listen. If they smile, it’s only sincere, because when they smile, their lip tips rise, and wrinkles appear around their eyes, and they infect others with their fun. The expression of the face is consistent with what they are going to express in words. If they are upset, you will immediately feel it not only by their tone, but also by the expression of the face. When reliable people like someone, their pupils dilate and they start to smile all the time.

How to understand people better: three psychological theories

How to understand people better: three psychological theories

Knowledge of the features of the psyche helps to communicate in any field, better understand both close people and friends. Here are three interesting psychological theories with which you can better interact with others, as well as understand yourself.

Dunbar Number
Researcher Robin Dunbar linked the activity of neocortex, the main cortex of the large hemispheres of the brain, to the level of social activity.

He looked at the size of social groups in different animals and the number of grooming partners (an important part of caregiving, such as hair-raising in primates).

It turned out that the size of neocortex was directly related to the number of individuals in the community and the number of those who cleaned each other (analogue of communication).

When Dunbar began researching people, he found that there were about 150 people in social groups. That means everyone has about 150 people they know who they can ask for help or provide them with something.

A close group is 12 people, but 150 social connections are a larger number. This is the maximum number of people we have contact with. If you know more than 150 people, some of the past connections go away.

We can put it another way:

These are people you wouldn’t mind drinking with in a bar if you happened to meet them there.

Writer Rick Lux tried to challenge Dunbar’s theory. He wrote about trying to do it:

“In trying to challenge Dunbar’s theory, I actually confirmed it. Even if you decide to challenge Dunbar’s number and try to expand your circle of acquaintances, you will be able to interact with more people, but that’s a lot of 200 people or even less.

This experience has allowed Lux to draw attention to close relationships:

“After my experiment, I felt respect for..:

  1. British anthropology.
  2. To my true friends.

I realized that there are not many of them, but now I treat them much better and appreciate them more”.

The Dunbar number will be particularly useful for marketers and people working in social media and branding. If you know that every person can only interact with 150 friends and acquaintances, it will be easier to respond to rejection.

Instead of getting angry and upset when people don’t want to communicate with you and support your brand, think about the fact that they only have 150 contacts. If they choose you, they have to give up someone they know. On the other hand, if people make contact, you will appreciate it more.

What about social media, where many have over a thousand friends? But with how many of them do you have any way of communicating? It’s likely the number is close to 150. As soon as you have new contacts, the old ones are forgotten and just hanging out with your friends.

Many people periodically clean their list and delete those they won’t communicate with, leaving only the people they care about. This is not quite right. The fact is that it is important not only strong connections, that is, your immediate environment. Morten Hansen’s book “Cooperation” describes how important for a person weak social contacts (in particular, those that are made through social networks). They are the key to new opportunities.

The study has shown that it is not so much the number of connections that matters for human development as the diversity of them. Among your acquaintances there should be people who hold opposite views, with different experiences and knowledge. And such a contingent is quite possible to find in a social network.

Weak connections are useful because they lead us into unfamiliar areas, while strong connections exist in areas already studied.

The Hanlon Razor
It’s a statement by Robert Hanlon, author of the Pennsylvania joke book, and it sounds like this:

Never attribute to evil intent anything that can be explained by foolishness.

In the Hanlon Razor you can replace the word “stupidity” with “ignorance”, i.e. lack of information before making a decision or an action. And here’s how it works: When you feel that someone is treating you badly or doing something mean to you, first dig deeper and see if it has anything to do with a trivial misunderstanding.

For example, if you received an email from an employee who is harshly opposed to your idea, maybe they just don’t understand it. And his resentment wasn’t directed at you, he only spoke out against an idea that seemed stupid or dangerous to him.

How to understand people better: three psychological theories

Moreover, it often happens that acquaintances try to help a person by their own methods, and he takes it as a sneaky act. People by nature are not evil creatures, so that behind every imaginary harm can hide good intentions, just ridiculously expressed.

Herzberg’s motivational factors
The latter theory can help in communicating with colleagues or even with friends and spouses. The concept was put forward in 1959 by Frederick Herzberg. Its essence is that satisfaction and dissatisfaction with work are measured differently, not being the two ends of the same line.

The theory assumes that dissatisfaction depends on hygienic factors: working conditions, salary, relationships with supervisors and colleagues. If they are not satisfied, dissatisfaction appears.

But work is not liked because of good hygienic factors. Satisfaction depends on a group of reasons (motivation), which include: pleasure at work, recognition and opportunities for growth.
We can deduce the following statement: working in a highly paid position with comfortable conditions, you can still feel lousy if, for example, you do not trust serious projects and do not notice the effort.

And the fact that you get recognition and realize the benefits of your actions will not compensate for the fact that you are paid a penny for this, forcing you to work in a terrible environment.

This theory is particularly useful for those in charge of personnel in a company. Now you will understand why people, despite good conditions, still quit.

For those who are dissatisfied with the job themselves, this theory will help you find out the reason for dissatisfaction and overcome it. Also, if your friends, family or acquaintances complain about the place of employment, you will never tell them: “But you are so well paid there! You’re mad at the fat, stay.” This step can be very important for their future.

How to start living again

How to start living again

First of all, you have to decide what you want. Starting a new life, a person is able to move in a variety of directions, because before him lies a sea of opportunities and a variety of choices. In order not to be dissatisfied with the result again, he must understand what he wants to get from life.

Decide on your goals and desires and start to act.

You may encounter several obstacles on your way to new happiness. The first one is the wrong inner setting. Find out what stereotypes you have accumulated in your mind and prevent you from realizing your most daring ideas. Some of the statements come from childhood, and you have never questioned them as axioms. Now it is time to change your mind all your life, to see what you have made mistakes about, and to get rid of harmful thoughts.

A person who starts a new life should have an easy life at heart.

So you need to let go of the past and forget all the hurt feelings. For the last time, analyze your past actions, draw useful lessons from them, draw appropriate conclusions and archive them. Mentally seal the past in a large chest and promise yourself not to go back to it again without much need. Let go of all the grievances that weigh heavily on your heart. Whoever hurt you – relatives, friends, colleagues, strangers or yourself – forgive them with all your heart. Understand that people around you have their own motives to act in a certain way.

Carry out an audit.

Determine what you will take with you into your new life and what you will change. The categories you need to consider include personal qualities, occupation and activity, circle, place of residence, and lifestyle. What you are dissatisfied with should be changed. However, it is important not to be afraid of innovation and to trust yourself more.

Create space for a new life.

For this you need to get rid of the junk – in your head and around you. You have already figured out your thoughts and attitudes in the first step. It’s time for external changes. Clear your home of trash that you don’t need. Understand that it prevents you from living and prevents energy from circulating. Clear the rubble of things you haven’t used for a long time, and you’ll see how much easier it will be for you. Transform your apartment, make repairs and reshuffles.

Think about whether there are any aspects of your work that you are not satisfied with.

How to start living again

If you go there as a hard labour, it may be worth changing your field of work. Don’t be afraid to learn something new, to explore new areas. You can change jobs at any age, the main thing is to have a great desire and make certain efforts.

If you are burdened by failures in your personal life, you should start working on a relationship.

When you do not see a way out of this situation, it is worth changing your partner or partner. Only before that honestly answer yourself, whether your relationship has a future, whether you have done everything possible to save them, whether the person who is near you is right for you. If you show sincerity in an internal conversation, get a guide to action and a chance for personal happiness.

How to find a purpose in life

How to find a purpose in life

Tune in to serious work on yourself. To find meaning in life, you need to be honest with yourself and throw away all stereotypes. What can bring satisfaction to one person will be completely insignificant to another. Therefore, do not be guided by the values accepted in society.

Imagine yourself in a few years…

5 or 10. Imagine what surrounds you, what kind of person you’ve become, what you do. What you draw in your subconscious in the first place may be the most important thing for you. Try to develop this idea and find your way of life. For example, you presented yourself as a professional in a certain field. Then you should pay attention to this sphere and develop in it. Let’s say you didn’t immediately think about your work, but introduced yourself next to your own family and children. Then pay attention to your personal life and define a goal related to this aspect.

Brainstorm yourself…

The main condition and at the same time an undoubted advantage of this method is a free flow of thoughts. Disconnect internal criticism and release your own imagination. Prepare a piece of paper and a pen. Relax, calm down, and then quickly begin to list all that you care about, what you think is important in life. Don’t think about whether or not you are writing correctly and how viable your list is. Once the ideas are over, look at your list and find out what you think is most important in your life.

Try yourself in different roles.

Some people find their way by trial and error. You can do the same. Develop in several directions. Set different tasks. Maybe you can find your true purpose by feeling. At first glance it may seem that this method is quite primitive and ineffective, but it is not. The fact is that as soon as you distract from the fixation on finding a goal in life and start to act, your subconscious will be activated and your intuition will show you the right way.

How to find a purpose in life

Think about the activities that bring you true pleasure

Make a whole list of the things you like to do. Now highlight those items that benefit you or others at the same time. Maybe you should dedicate yourself to the cause, because the goal of the person should be what brings joy and grace to others.

Think about which categories are most important to you in life.

Maybe you think it’s all about making a lot of money. Then determine why you need wealth. Move so deeply into each answer and you will reach the essence of your life. Think about whether the achievement of this particular good will make you a happy man, or you need something else. It is possible to combine several aspects into one, then the overall goal of life will be a little different.

How to get rid of the constant anxiety

How to get rid of the constant anxiety

Handling anxiety and anxiety is not as difficult as it may seem at first sight.
Try to figure out exactly what’s bothering you. It’s likely that many of your fears are far-fetched and have no good reason to be. For example, you are worried about your career, about not being demoted, even though you are probably doing a good job, and are valued and respected by your bosses.

Let’s imagine the worst part.
Let’s say you’ve been demoted or worse, demoted by state. Does your life end here? I’m sure you’ll always be able to find another job that’s equal to or even better paid and interesting. Sometimes even the most negative things happen for the good.

Let’s get down to business.
Let it be something interesting for you, something that will bring you pleasure. Immerse yourself in joyful emotions, supplant all your fears with them. Psychologists have long used employment therapy as the best cure for anxiety.

Let’s think of those who are worse off…
Start helping someone, do not dwell on your own experiences, because there are so many people around who have much more serious problems than you. Visit an orphanage or hospice, share with others your smile, your warmth, and you will see that your anxiety disappears completely or becomes much weaker.

Let’s put the past behind us.
Don’t worry about long past events. People tend to feel anxious and worried about situations that have been left behind. Often a person remembers the event that once happened with him or her, which caused a bright emotional response, and re-experiencing unpleasant emotions. Clearly divide the present, past and future. Do not worry about what is long gone, as well as about what is not yet and perhaps never will be, live here and now.

Let’s laugh at the trouble.
Learn to be a happy person with an optimistic view of the world. In any situation you can see both positive and negative sides. Develop a sense of humor, more jokes and laughs.

Let’s not make it any worse.
Remember the negative consequences of constant anxiety: these are heart and vessel diseases, gastritis and stomach ulcers, diabetes, arthritis, rheumatism, etc.

Take control of your emotions.
Observe your thoughts, emotions and words, give up the usual word forms: “I am worried about this and that”, “I am afraid”, “I am worried”, etc. If you begin to be overwhelmed by anxious thoughts, watch them as if from the outside: where do they come to you? What kind of reactions do you have? Do not let them bother you, let the negative thoughts go as if through your brain, without lingering in it.

How to get rid of the constant anxiety

Let’s record the progress
Keep a personal diary, write down all your fears, reasons for your worries and what you did to get rid of them. Remember, only your active actions aimed at improving the quality of your life can help you find peace of mind and harmony.

Consult a psychologist or therapist if your own efforts do not help you get rid of your anxiety. Your doctor may prescribe some kind of medication to help you get rid of your anxiety. Such problems may include hormonal imbalances, thyroid problems, vascular dystonia, etc.

In relations between men and women, the main fears relate to difficulties in communication. Why do men fear women and women fear men?

Infobusiness: how to make money selling information

 how to make money selling information

Have you ever thought about having a unique product that you can sell, and perhaps more than once? “But I don’t have anything special – everything is like everyone else”, you’d be surprised. That’s not quite true. Many people can start a successful business today if they are able to present their product – valuable information – to consumers. Infobusiness assumes that the knowledge that you offer people will be useful to them.

Few people will be interested in the unique method of quick hand washing – almost all have switched to washing machines. But “secret” knowledge about how to achieve your goals, earn a hundred thousand rubles a month or start a startup from scratch is in great demand.

This is evidenced by the numerous seminars, webinars and training sessions, which are held both in recording and online. Today, most people are willing to pay for a knowledgeable person to share the secrets of success and help make the first steps in business or self-development.


If you have something to tell the world, all you have to do is figure out how to do it for yourself. I mean, we share that information for free.

What to sell.
While browsing various sites on the Internet, you probably often come across such ads: “A woman in today’s world. A webinar for those who want to successfully combine career and family” or “Career Training. From subordinate to boss in just a month.” This is the info business and it’s not just online. Books on similar topics (all kinds of manuals, tutorials) – also an infoproduct. Here are some more popular topics.

  1. How to save money. Everyone is interested to know where and how to buy something budget and cheap, how to quickly and easily get a discount, how to fit a certain amount.
  2. How to learn how to communicate. Popular secrets of success in personal life, team communication, establishing any useful connections.
  3. Health, fitness and beauty. Appearance and presentability in today’s world guarantee prestige. Both women and men want to lose weight, get younger and stay active.

There is also a paid mailing list. For example, fans to bet on various sports competitions, offer several times a week to buy high-quality VIP-projections of upcoming events. There are also professional traders who trade on international currency markets, and other carriers of unique information. As bait, they also offer a free newsletter to attract as many clients as possible. But it will always be incomplete, in contrast to the paid one.

In order to interest people in their services and to turn potential customers into regulars, infobusinessmen resort to other methods.

The first steps of infobusiness

  1. One should be puzzled by creating one’s own website. Since most of the infobusiness transactions take place on the Internet, it is worth making a statement there. Infopreneurs do not wait for a call in the apartment, and the interested consumer himself will offer to pay money for this or that information. On their page, they talk about the benefits of the knowledge sold, leave contact details and prices for their services.
  2. Skillfully used ways to make themselves known: contextual advertising, mailing lists, press releases, articles on various sites, own blogs, social networks. All this allows potential consumers to learn about this or that “seller”, visit his page and, if the information will be to your liking, buy it.
  3. a small part of information is not for sale, but for giving. It is a similar behavior to trading on the market, from the counters with fruits and vegetables. “Try the grapes, they’re sweet”, they offer us. We try it, make sure that the berries are really nothing, and decide to buy them. Knowing that people are afraid to take a “cat in a bag”, smart infopreneurs give the opportunity to “try” their product.

Why is it worth choosing an infobusiness

Thousands of people leave their jobs and devote their time to selling information. What’s so great about it? There really is an advantage, they are the ones who make businessmen give up selling clothes and shoes in favor of selling their knowledge profitably.

 how to make money selling information
  • An infobusinessman can work at home, sitting in the kitchen in his pajamas. His goods do not take up space, do not require storage space, sales are carried out by one person instead of a large staff.
  • Entrepreneur covers a wide range of consumers, as the participants of webinars can be people from different cities and countries. The geographical distance of the infopreneur from his clients does not play any role.
  • If an info-businessman finds his niche and sells a truly unique product, he has virtually no competitors, unlike sellers of equipment, clothing and shoes.
  • The information exists only in your head and records. No need to wait for the delivery of goods, nervous because of problems with transportation, idle due to illness or sluggishness of employees.

Some skeptics believe that the infobusiness will not last long. Information is becoming more and more accessible, most active Internet users today easily and easily find in the World Wide Web what yesterday could be found only by visiting a paid training or by buying an electronic package of lectures. Whether these predictions will come true, we will know only in a few years, so far we can earn what no one will take away from us – our knowledge.

How to choose an orthopedic pillow

How to choose an orthopedic pillow

Buying an orthopedic pillow, you can be sure that during sleep breathing will be free, blood flow to the brain – normal. In addition, the use of an orthopedic pillow can effectively prevent the development of diseases of the cervical spine.

Orthopedic pillows differ in types of fillers, size and shape, as well as cost. The lowest price have pillows, the material for which is polyester rolled into small, silicone treated balls. When you lie down on such a pillow, it is the balls that keep your head and neck in the right position.

These pillows are washed in a regular machine. It does not take long to dry as the pillows are almost dry. Products are quite durable, on average they last eight years. When choosing a pillow in a store, pay attention to how the stitches are sewn in the product. The best quality seams have short stitches.

You can choose an orthopedic pillow made of latex foam. This cushion is more expensive because it has a special anatomical shape with rolls to support the neck. This product can serve for a very long time. Orthopedic pillows made of latex differ in height and rigidity. They are well suited for adults and children.
Another option is cushions made of technological fillers Memory Foam. These products can “memorize” the position of a person’s head during rest. The cushion does not exert pressure, softly supports the neck and head. The lack of pressure improves blood circulation, sleep becomes deeper and the number of turns in the sleep is reduced.

Very high quality pillows are made of polyurethane foam. They will delicately support your neck and head while you sleep. The products will serve you very long.
Polyurethane foam can be different degrees of elasticity, all depends on the type of pillow. You can easily choose the most suitable option for you. Buy orthopedic pillows in specialized stores. When making your choice, read the specifications carefully.

How to choose an orthopedic pillow

The height and stiffness of the pillow are always specified separately. The choice also depends on how you prefer to sleep. If you like to sleep on your back, choose an orthopedic pillow that is lower and stiffer. It will make you feel more comfortable sleeping on it. Those who like to sleep on the side should choose a softer, taller pillow.

Carefully choose the size of the pillow. To do this, measure the length of the shoulder – the distance from the articulation of the arm with the shoulder to the base of the neck. For adults, the pillows are available in two sizes, they differ in height of the roller – 10 and 14 cm. Patients with shoulder lengths from 14 cm should choose a roller with a height of 14 cm. Stop at the 10 cm high roller if the shoulder length is 10-14 cm.
During the first few days you may feel a little uncomfortable falling asleep, but later you will get used to it and feel how much better to sleep on an orthopedic pillow.

How to set yourself up for success

How to set yourself up for success

When you take up something you don’t know, you’re expected to be afraid of failure. But if someone’s already done it before you, you should be able to do it, too. Well, if you’re a pioneer in your direction, then you shouldn’t be afraid either.

Without patient inventors, we wouldn’t have electricity, cars, spaceships and much more. Even if you fail, it is unlikely that this event will make your friends and family turn their backs on you – think about it.

  1. A clear plan of action and a goal will help you set yourself up for success. Make a plan in writing and sign it as detailed as possible. Take note of each step you take in the right direction. Taking a good look at what you are doing will help you not be afraid of ambiguities or unexpected pitfalls. A clear and logical plan is already half of the success. If you think over your steps well, you will see that there is nothing difficult in achieving the goal.

Important: If the failure does happen, be sure to analyze it and do everything not to repeat it in the future.

2: Talk more with successful people and read inspiring stories. Having a live example of success before your eyes will make it easier for you to believe in yourself. If you have the opportunity, talk to someone who has reached significant heights himself. Ask him about his success story, ask him for some advice. As a rule, these people are characterized by perseverance, determination and great patience – bring up and in yourself such qualities.

Important: Communicating with pessimistic and constantly complaining people is better to minimize.

  1. 3. Conduct autotraining-reply tell yourself every morning that you will succeed and your goal will be reached. Visualize your dreams. Imagine in the smallest detail how you succeed. In the evening, before you go to bed, remember what you have achieved to date. Although many are skeptical about auto training, psychologists consider it a powerful tool to influence the psyche.

Important: By believing in the success of yourself, you can assure other people.

  1. Keep an active lifestyle. Sports, fitness and walks cleanse your thoughts and help you tune in to a working way. In addition, physical activity increases the production of endorphins, hormones of joy. If thoughts of failure overwhelm you, postpone work and go to the nearest park or gym.

Important: Training does not require thinking or complicated actions, so it perfectly structures your thoughts and helps you cope with stress.

How to set yourself up for success
  1. Do not idealize the situation. It is quite possible that you will not achieve your goal, or your dream will come true in a slightly different way. Do not expect anything grandiose from the end result. It’ll be easier to survive if something goes wrong. Think through all the worst scenarios in advance. Scroll through them in your head, experience them mentally. Understand that nothing bad will happen if you don’t achieve your goal.

Important: Ask yourself if your failure will upset you during the year. Five years? Decades? Hardly – which means that you should not be upset if something goes wrong.