There are enough problems in adolescence, but a particular problem for parents is the unwillingness of the growing offspring to study

What are the reasons why a teenager does not want to go to school, and how should parents react? At first it is necessary to understand the causes that gave rise to an unwillingness to learn.

The lack of incentive for the teenager.

The first reason why a teenager does not want to go to school and learn first grade sight words can be a lack of understanding, why in general there is a need to fill his head with all sorts of unnecessary facts and theorems. Arguments that were given to parents during their Soviet childhood, saying that the country and future generations need it, are no longer relevant. The assertion that without knowledge it is difficult to become a respectable person is also debatable, because children see how former truants and truants get on in life. In addition, children, even 14-year-olds, are not capable of looking far ahead, setting goals and overcoming them.

Advice to parents: try to convey to the younger generation that the life of an educated person is much fuller and more interesting, he understands the processes of the world and what is 2/3as a decimal, and you should give good examples.

What to do if a teenager doesn’t want to study.
Lack of desire to go to school can also be observed in gifted children. They suddenly become uninterested in learning, and no amount of threats and persuasion will not help. Teachers can only increase unwillingness to learn by giving boring lessons and labeling students as “lazy,” “rascal,” etc. As a result, even the most diligent student may feel an aversion to school.

Advice to parents: if your pupil really “outgrew” the school material, find him an educational institution more suitable to his potential. Talk to the teacher – perhaps he is too categorical in his assessment of your child?

How to motivate your teenager to learn.
School conflicts. Among middle school students, fights are quite common. Sometimes the reason can be the desire of the teenager to be a leader when he lacks the proper qualities. Another reason could be his efforts to be in two companies of classmates, not completely understanding which one of them he strives for, and as a result the child is between two fires. Another reason – the transition to another educational institution where the relationship between classmates have already been formed, and your child can not define his place in the established group, and it is difficult for him to be the first to begin to communicate. When a teenager feels uncomfortable, he does not want to go to school.

Advice to parents: analyze the cause of misunderstanding between the guys in class and your teenager. Take him out for a frank conversation, think how you can help him to improve the situation, give him confidence in your support. If the case is neglected and you can’t resolve it by your own efforts, you can enlist the help of a psychologist.

The teenager is learning poorly.
How can parents help their teenager?

ü Not to force him to study despite the feelings he is experiencing.

ü Don’t compare him to other, more successful students.

ü Encourage and try to smooth over your child’s shortcomings. Don’t give him hurtful nicknames, don’t call him a slacker or a fool – this will destroy the trust between you.

ü Do not speak negatively about the school in general or the teacher in particular in the presence of the teenager, because the parents’ opinion forms the child’s opinion. Hearing an unflattering characteristic, he will decide – if the school is bad, then why study there? Try to let your child see the positive aspects of school.

Don’t try to frighten your child with predictions of what he will grow up to be if he drops out of school, and don’t use as an example antisocial and criminal elements. If your memories of your own school are negative, don’t program your child for the same attitude toward his or her school that you once had.

ü Always and in everything support your child, do not leave him or her alone with problems and difficulties.